Euchre Party Reveals I don't know Jack!

It was date night Saturday and my husband and I were invited to a party. "Hurray!" I thought. We have something to do other than go out to dinner (and get fat) or see a movie (and sit on our butts & eat popcorn... and get fat!).

The only downside was that the party was with a bunch of people that we didn't know and it was a euchre party. A card game I don't know either. Not batting a thousand. You know the feeling, right?

Well, I am so glad we went. We had a really great time. I met some new people and I learned a new card game. I also learned that my husband loves to see my competitive side come out-- since it creeps out only rarely. He confirmed that he would be my partner any time. (phew!)

I also learned a few other things. I realized that a cocktail party is a great place to learn about community dynamics. All roads lead back to work, right?

Here are a few of my takeaways...
1. When you walk into a room full of people you don't know you scan the room for someone that looks friendly.
MY TAKEAWAY: As much as I hate to admit it, people judge a book by its cover. On a website, really friendly photos make all the difference in the world!

2. You desperately want someone to come over and welcome you and make an initial introduction.
MY TAKEAWAY: Having a "host" is a really good idea. Invite people into the community. And, for god sake, don't make them feel all alone. Give them a "friend" or introduce them to someone else!

3. Be prepared with some small talk questions. Where do you live? work? do you have kids? And, don't be too personal.
MY TAKEAWAY: Ask people basic questions that allow them to get to know each other better. But, don't ask too revealing of questions. I would never ask someone at a cocktail party to share their deep dark secrets. Keep 'em basic but telling. (note to self: questions from a few weeks back are probably a little too deep!)

4. The tone of the party really matters. Are people laughing? Sitting in corners?
MY TAKEAWAY: We need to set an overall positive and friendly tone. If you don't, you run the risk of making people feel like it is an exclusionary site.

5. Wine and beer are a good thing. Okay. I know it sounds bad, but it loosens everyone up and makes people more social.
MY TAKEAWAY: I have no idea how the hell you translate that online... ANYONE?

And, of course, I learned that I need to go to more parties so that I can test out my community theories... :)